Casey Teaches Me To Flirt Online
and reveals the best/worst texts guys have sent her
Tinder/dating apps.
Most people used to think it’s a hookup app. Was there at 16. Most people are on there for the fun of it. Met most of my ex-boyfriends there.
Swipe right (yes): They look good; I’ve a type. They dress well; if they don’t dress in a similar way, maybe they’re not into the same culture as I am, music-wise, nightlife-wise.
I don’t wanna date someone who goes to Bang Bang.
Swipe left (no): Blurry photos, looks five years ago. If your photos are so old, what happened? If all their photos are group photos, if they only have one photo; do they not care about their profile, are they catfishing?
I hate show-offs. That guy with pineapple hair and buff body taking a mirror selfie and flexing his abs, or standing next to his car, or wearing his watch with his hand on his steering wheel.
Selfies are okay, unless they’re in their bedrooms at night biting their lips, squinting, raising their brows.
Template bios like “Rated 10/10 on the Forbes’ List” or “by my mother”. Did they Google “What to put in my Tinder bio”? Or “I like long walks on the beach and snorting cocaine”. They try to be funny, but it’s not.
Most guys I know swipe right on every girl, unmatch/choose later. It’s less likely for them to get likes than girls. I think it’s for them to get more likes, feel better.
I like that I can meet a lot of people just to go out on a few dates, go to a museum. They can be romantic, but we don’t necessarily have to want to get into a relationship.
Flirting online.
I think for most girls, the line between flirty and creepy is how handsome the guy is. *laughs*
I mostly don’t message guys first; think a lot a girls don’t too. They see what guys send, think what to do with it. Guys will mostly text first anyway.
The only times I’ve messaged first is if they’ve a funny profile/interesting photo/good fashion sense. If your profile has no bio, only one picture, what am I supposed to work with?
Some girls prefer Bumble. They have to message first, get to set the pace.
On OkC, I answered dream job as: “I wanna be the CEO of a sex toy company, focusing on wellbeing, in the educational sector.” Some guys are genuinely curious, others will go, “Wow, so interesting; can I use your toys?”
When guys open with “Wanna fuck?” I almost always don’t reply. But some turn out to be chill after.
I hate when people say “Hey, wanna know something?” and text one sentence at a time; when people put a full stop after everything they say. You don’t have to put a full stop after “Okay, can.” A full stop is too serious for this message!
Dick pics.
It only does something if I know them, am excited to meet them. I don’t see a random body part and go, “I’m so turned on!”
If the conversation is already sexual, I don’t think it hurts to ask, “Do you wanna see…”
Instagram.
Guys mostly hide behind an anonymous, private profile. I’ll only reply the text is funny; I’ll insult them and post it on IG stories. Or if we have mutuals, and I like those mutuals.
Some will send me my pictures and comment on them in my DMs. Thanks?
It’s disgusting whenever I go to an influencer’s page and see the first mutual is my friend’s boyfriend. Why must I see your username on every bitch’s account?
How do girls flirt?
Girls like Korean-looking boys. A gentler face. The V jaw. But their bodies have to be buff.
They try to keep their photos PG, but almost-not; maybe the last photo has a bit of ass-cheek. Guys like to say that they “spotted” the naughtiness under girls’ nice exterior; docile on the outside, kinky on the inside.
I think I’m quite opposite from what majority of guys want, but I don’t want majority of guys.
I know a lot of girls who’re very sexual but aren’t public about it. It’s also kind of an “expectation” they follow.
How do guys flirt?
With money, success.
I’ve also seen guys’ Instagrams that’re extremely youth-culture oriented, try to pander to that sense of humour. They post lots of memes. But it doesn’t show personality.
